The Consequences of friends and the celebration of friends of consequence

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I just read an article in one of those magazines, which suckers like me are always buying in the supermarket checkout line. You know the ones…where happy, peppy models pretending to be ‘real people’ promise that it is possible to lose 20 pounds in two weeks. I invariably buy the magazine and without exception read about the diet as I am enjoying a big bowl of macaroni and cheese and washing it down with a nice Cabernet.

In the most recent rag–featuring a toothy woman named Kelly who is eating Chinese food and promising to lower my obesity risk by 300%,  I discovered an interesting tidbit on page 14: “Having a few loving friends you can lean on when times are tough reduces the risk of breast cancer as much as 25%.”

As Suzanne Collins’ President Snow would say, “May the odds be ever in your favor.

I have recently come against tough times and I have been incredibly lucky to have friends of consequence when my life was irrevocably changed by a death this year. The Consequences of this were that the bedrock of my foundation was deeply cracked. Yet, I still managed to write. Suffocating in grief, I still wrote because that’s what writers do. Mechanics still fix cars, teachers still teach, politicians still lie….we go on. And so The Affair  became The Consequences. And while this pub day will be missing an extremely important supporter, other supporters have filled in the hole. New friends of consequence have stepped up and old friends have stepped up more. Therefore, rather than winge and whine and have a lot of wine, I celebrate my release.

Because I’m celebrating my friends.

Each one of my friends in the book’s acknowledgements helped get me through my pain and, for that, I am extremely grateful. Others, who were not mentioned, were invaluable as well. I know writing is a solitary life. It is a lonely life and an introspective one. However, I could not be a writer without my community of friends: my unbelievable support system who either pick me up when I fall or sit down on the ground with me, patiently waiting for me to get up.

The definition of Consequences is twofold: Something that happens as a result of a particular action or set of conditions and Importance or value. Both definitions have had major significance between last year’s publication of The Affair and this Tuesday’s publication of The Consequences.

The Consequences of death is grief. The Consequences of an Affair is a great deal of tsuris and pain. The two are not terribly dissimilar. However, the Consequences of having a strong support system of friends… is priceless.

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  • Judi Tavill

    You are the writer. You said it right. Thank you.

  • Cat

    Colette, you have wonderful friends because you are a wonderful person yourself. Such a rough time your heart has been through – I’m so, so sorry you’ve had to endure it. But very happy that you’ve got a strong network around you, made up of those who’s lives you’ve touched.
    Peace
    Cat

  • Linda

    Congratulations on writing through the rough times – you are a courageous woman. Its not easy to write when your world is normal and there is no tragedy…. so to continue on and write in spite of the pain of the loss of your husband and partner is really remarkable.

    I just finished “The Affair” today and didn’t know you had written “The Consequences” – can’t wait to buy & read it!

    Thanks for being so good at your craft and an inspiration to all of us… Linda

  • Susan

    I’m currently reading “The Consequences”… it’s so hard to put down! So glad and proud that you are able to take your incredible well of grief and channel it into one of the things that connected you two so deeply. Not only that, you have created yet another wonderful story. Brava!

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